Life is really simple but we insist on making it complicated. Life doesn’t have to be this complicated. Relationships don’t have to be this complicated. Our friendships don’t have to be this complicated.
Happiness, love well-being, peace of mind, and your sanity don’t have to be this complicated. You either know or you don’t. You either want something or you don’t. You either love someone or you don’t. There are no ‘maybes‘. No ‘I’m not sure‘. No ‘It’s complicated.
That’s just what people say when they don’t want to tell the truth. Or they are running from either themselves or the world. Or they don’t want to put in the effort. So, this is what I’ve learned about life.
These days, many people live stressful, complicated, hurried lives — going and going and going and sometimes getting nowhere. I’ve been there too, with so much to do with seemingly little time to do it. Trying to be in control and rushing from people to places to projects with good intentions to get it all done.
If you’re one of these many people, even if it’s just every now and then, you should know that there are a few ways we actually make life harder on ourselves. The reverse of this is also true. Undoing our stress can be the path to really living life right.
Perhaps the thing we need the most isn’t more things to do, but a thorough cleaning of our mental, emotional, and physical to-do lists. When you’re doing so much in a day that you can’t remember anything you did and you don’t feel any better or more fulfilled having done it, then you are simply too busy and your life is too full and complicated.
Inspiring life provides you with 5 reasons why we complicate life.
5 ways we complicate our life
1. Not setting Boundaries.
No, everything is not a priority. No, everyone does not need your attention.
Yes, the world will roll right on if you go on a vacation, take a nap, or watch the sunset.
Boundaries influence who you are, what you believe, and where you stand in the grand scheme of everything else. Set, embrace, and respect boundaries. It’s not a sign of weakness if you can’t handle something; it’s an opportunity for your boundaries to show strength.
When we set boundaries, we show respect for our health, our time, our energy, and our life. When we decide when to say yes and when to say no, we take control of our lives. If you respect your own boundaries, other people will respect them as well.
2. Comparing ourselves with others.
Don’t compare your chapter 1 to someone else’s chapter 20. You are entitled to embrace your life just the way it is, make the changes you know you can make, and walk your own path to success.
Nobody is obligated to write your life for you. Comparing yourself to someone else will set you up for failure. Do you wonder why so many people don’t succeed? Because they are way too busy trying to be like someone else, get what someone else has, look like someone else, and act like someone else.
3. We Hold on to Birds That Need to Fly.
You can’t untangle your life if you’re unwilling to let go of some things and some people. What you had five years ago may not be what you need now. The people who walked your journey with you one year ago may not be the same people who need to walk with you today.
Drop a load off of your life by not holding on too tightly. If you do, you’ll be disappointed and always wondering why? how? when? what?
Accept differences. Embrace change. Give yourself permission to let go so you can have room to grab the next opportunity that comes your way.
Projects pile up, certain tasks are constantly at the top of our to-do list, emails and text messages go unanswered, and people want our attention.
Nothing can clutter our minds more than things that go undone. When we don’t do the things we should at the times we know we should do them, we get overwhelmed. Being overwhelmed often leads to projects never being completed because we feel like we will never catch up.
Procrastination is a complication. Our life will love us forever if we start doing things now.
5. By Comparing ourselves with others.
This is often done unconsciously. But let’s be honest, most of what we do, we want people to like. The more people don’t like it, the busier we are refining and revamping it. This causes stress. In fact, the desire to be liked will end up more rejected.
One of the hardest things you will ever do is try to please people. It’s hard because you’ll never succeed. It’s a game — a futile, empty one at that. The goal is to like what you do, love what you do, think your own thoughts, create the life you want to live, and never mind if anyone approves or affirms you in it.
Don’t be afraid to love the path you’re walking on and the life you’re living — every step, every minute.